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One-sided conversations


I had a long, and somewhat one-sided, discussion with one of my 16-yr-old autistic daughters yesterday.

Basically, she told me that, while she understood she'd been naughty, the punishment of taking her computer priviliges until after lunch seemed a little excessive and that, if her mother was around (Senior Management is off on a business trip for a couple of weeks), she'd no doubt agree.

When that approach didn't work, she resorted to questioning my parenting skills and even went so far as to suggest that my old gran's approach to discipline seemed positively indulgent compared to the strict regime I enforce at home.

Of course, what she actually said was, "LAPTOP! Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh! LAPTOP! I WANT LAPTOP! Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh! LAPTOP!" but over the years, I've learned to read between the lines. This went on for perhaps twenty-five minutes with me calmly walking her back to her bedroom (where she's allowed to vent her frustrations as loud and long as she likes) every time she ran downstairs to scream in my face.

My ears are still ringing.

Happily, she calmed down eventually and my (normally) cute and cuddly daughter came  back to me.

How was your weekend?



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karen_w_newton
Jun. 6th, 2011 03:55 pm (UTC)
ditto the above. it sounds almost like dealing with a toddler who never grows up. that would be really rough because I know that by the time my kids learned to do something for themselves, I was good and ready for them to learn it.

To me it was like going to sleep at night started a process of filling up a well of patience inside me. When I got up in the morning, I had plenty. Then throughout the day I would use it up, and if I had to go to the well too often, it would run dry. Parents of kids with special needs seem to have deeper wells than the rest of us.
jongibbs
Jun. 6th, 2011 07:02 pm (UTC)
'Parents of kids with special needs seem to have deeper wells than the rest of us.'

I really believe that Him Upstairs never gives us more than we can handle.

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