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Father Forgets

I came across this reading by Dale Carnegie, and couldn’t resist sharing it today. The language may seem a little old-fashioned, but the message of the piece is as beautiful and valid as when the book first appeared in 1937. It’s called “FATHER FORGETS” by W. Livingston Larned. You can find it in Carnegie’s amazing book,
How to Win Friends and Influence People
Even though I had no children at the time (I’d only just met Senior Management back then), this short piece had a sledgehammer impact which stayed with me to this day. It’s message helped me immensely with my own son (now 17), as well as my twin daughters (now 15 – both of whom are severely autistic).
Regardless of whether or not you have children, I defy you to listen to it without feeling profoundly moved. 

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Jan. 22nd, 2011 06:10 pm (UTC)
Lol, at least he saw the error of his ways :)
Jan. 22nd, 2011 03:14 pm (UTC)
Dang it, Jon. You had to make me cry first thing in the morning, huh? Wicked man.

I'm sending this to my husband, not because he is the father in the reading (though I cannot deny a time or two I might have thought so) but because he's the boy in the reading.

His dad had a saying, "Love 'em when they're sleeping." That's what he knew. That's how he raised his kids. I can imagine him standing over my sleeping husband, thinking those words or something like them, but morning would come and to HIM, being a good father was keeping such thoughts to himself.
Jan. 22nd, 2011 06:12 pm (UTC)
His dad sounds a lot like my old gran :)
Jan. 22nd, 2011 06:16 pm (UTC)
Something tells me they could have been siblings.
Jan. 22nd, 2011 06:18 pm (UTC)
You mean, like evil twins? :)
Jan. 22nd, 2011 06:22 pm (UTC)
Jan. 22nd, 2011 04:01 pm (UTC)
I'm not sure I ever saw that before, but it certainly reflects the way I tried to be with my daughter. There's such a delicate balance we have to strike as parents, because we do need to guide our children to adulthood, even as we remember they are children.
Jan. 22nd, 2011 06:13 pm (UTC)
It isn't easy, that's for sure :)
Jan. 22nd, 2011 04:33 pm (UTC)
This reminds me of a book my mother was fond of, that I can't remember the name of right now. The author pointed out the need to treat our children as well as we treat our friends, and not to speak to them in haste and anger, but to consider their feelings. One of the hardest things about being a parent is realizing your kids are not an extension of you, but separate human beings.
Jan. 22nd, 2011 06:14 pm (UTC)
I'm saving all my mean and cranky behaviour for when I'm ninety, and living with my son and his family :)
Jan. 22nd, 2011 06:22 pm (UTC)
Sounds like a plan to me! Old people get away with more anyway.
Jan. 22nd, 2011 09:41 pm (UTC)
Very nice. Thanks for sharing.
Jan. 23rd, 2011 02:10 am (UTC)
It's a great book :)
Jan. 24th, 2011 04:58 pm (UTC)
Wow, that was something else! I'm sharing that with Hubby!

Have you heard "I'll be Like You" by Herbert Parker?

To get his goodnight kiss he stood
Beside my chair one night
And raised an eager face to me
A face with love alight.

And as I gathered in my arms
The son God gave to me,
I thanked the lad for being good
And hoped he'd always be,

His little arms crept 'round my neck,
And then I heard him say
Four simple words I can't forget-
Four words that made me pray.

They turned a mirror on my soul,
On secrets no one knew.
They startled me, I hear them yet;
He said, "I'll be like you."

Jan. 24th, 2011 05:14 pm (UTC)
That's a challenging (and somewhat scary) thought :)
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